Raising another human being no matter what age they are can invoke many different feelings. In that caring giving role we tend to put ourselves on the back burner, under nurturing ourselves, and tending to everyone’s needs before our own.
The Importance of Self-Care
Being a caregiver is one of the most rewarding, beautiful and insightful experiences humans can have. But we cannot reap these benefits if we are burned out, if we are running on empty, if we don’t make time for the most simple of self-care tasks. Life will pass us by in a flurry of homework deadlines, sick days and temper tantrums. If we aren’t looking after ourselves, we will miss the magic moments that make it all worthwhile.
We talk a lot about this at Hector’s House – because it’s true. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Your family needs cannot be met fully if your inner battery is at 1%. Your needs – your wants – are so important to the well-being of everyone around you. Like an oxygen mask on a plane, we are instructed to put our own on first before our children’s. There’s a good reason for this.
What does Self-Care even mean?
Self-care has become a bit of a buzzword, hasn’t it? We are not talking about bubble baths or new fancy skincare régimes. By self-care, we mean bringing it right back to basics. When was the last time you sat down for 10 minutes with a cuppa? Is your inner voice talking to you kindly, or is it being nasty about all the things you ‘should’ be doing? Did you get enough sleep last night? These are all examples of self-care. It’s completely unique to each person, so take a look at some wonderful resources for you below:
My child is struggling with their mental health
Children have had a hard time since 2020, with so much change and uncertainty for them to wrap their heads around. It’s important to remember that you are not alone in helping your child with their mental health struggles. This isn’t all on your shoulders, there are places to turn to for support.
Take a look at our Resources page for young people signposting, and you can read the following articles for advice on how to support young people:
I am struggling to cope
It takes a brave step to admit that you need support – especially as a parent or carer who has so much on their shoulders. We are so proud of you, and so thankful you are here.
Take a look at the following resources for advice and support:
You can also call one of these Helplines anytime you need someone to talk to.
You are not alone.