Hector’s House named as Tring Brewery’s Charity of Choice 2024

The Hector’s House team are so proud to have partnered with the incredible local business Tring Brewery as their Charity of Choice for 2024! Read more about this exciting partnership below.

What is the Charity of Choice at Tring Brewery?

So what does this mean exactly? It means that each month, when the brewery sends out casks of its monthly specials to pubs in the local area, some of the proceeds from these will be sent to Hector’s House, to continue the work we do.

In a much broader sense, it’s a way for Hector’s House to reach a much wider audience, who may not be aware of who we are and what we do. The more people we can reach, and the more we can be on the tips of people’s tongues, the more people we can help. With increased visibility, we hope more people will remember our name, and turn to us when they need support. Whether that’s for themselves or someone else.  

Community & Connection  

Community and connection are two of the most powerful tools in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling life. Feeling accepted within a community often leads to better physical health, increased happiness, and fewer mental health problems. Community isn’t just where you live and work, it’s also the places you choose to spend your time, and the people you choose to spend it with. For a lot of people local pubs are a community hub, especially in smaller, more rural communities. This is why we feel it’s important to establish a presence here. To provide the most help, to the most people – we should be where people are. For many people “The Pub” is a safe space where connections can be made and reinforced, and conversation can be held freely without judgement. It often fosters an environment of openness and togetherness.  

What we do 

Our focus is always on suicide prevention, and mental health support. We achieve this through a variety of ways. From signposting, to delivering talks and training, to direct intervention and listening ear support. Each case for support is assessed individually and tailored to best help the person in question. We will endeavour to have them be as involved as possible in steering the support to what they believe will be of the most benefit to themselves. Personal autonomy is very important when dealing with a person’s mental health and wellbeing. To contact us in regard to support, email us at HiHector@hectorshouse.org.uk please note we do not operate as a 24 hour support network.  

Helplines and other services

For 24-hour support: 

Text “Hector” to 85258 to talk with a trained volunteer 24/7
Call Samaritans on 116 123 to talk with a trained volunteer 24/7
In case of an emergency, call 999 

Tring Brewery: 

Tring Brewery have long been supporters of what we do. Not only is there the geographical connection, but also a deep personal one. Members of the brewery team went to school with Hector, and his legacy is of deep importance to them. Sam Reed, was a close personal friend of Hector, and is the production manager at the brewery. Sam, spearheaded making us their charity of the year. This is what he has to say.  

“Hector and I were best friends growing up, we were practically joined at the hip for huge parts of our childhood, I feel incredibly privileged that I have a huge number of great memories of us two together. It was therefore a huge shock when he took his own life in 2011.  

Sam and Hector 2002

“Ever since Hectors family set Hector’s House up in his honour, I have always tried to support and help them where I can. Back when the charity was started, I had just finished a design degree, so using my illustration skills, I helped design and digitise the logo that is used across their advertising of the charity to this day. Those skills are a little behind me now, but I am proud that I could help at the time and that the logo still flies the flag of the great work Hector’s House promote.  

“I started working at Tring Brewery as my first part-time after school job, where I washed casks back in our old site on Akeman Street. I have been lucky enough to develop and extend my role at the brewery to my now current position of Production Manager.  

“At Tring Brewery, we always try and put our yearly fundraising efforts into the local community, so when we looked at which charity we wanted to support in 2024, I strongly suggested that Hector’s House was a perfect choice to put our efforts behind, and everyone else at the brewery, as well as the team at Hectors House all agreed it would be great fit.  

“I have been part of Hector’s Gentle-Man’s Club since its conception in 2022. It is a group for men in the area to come together once a month to try new activities, meet new people and have a safe space to be themselves. With one of my roles at the brewery presenting the brewery tours, in January 2023 I hosted a bespoke evening of a beer tasting at the brewery, held alongside the regular mental health “check-in” element that is part of the Gentlemen’s Club meeting. We are looking at hosting future events at the brewery as part of HGMC, so watch this space!  

“I feel that in 2024 the relationship between ourselves at Tring Brewery and Hector’s House will be the perfect combination to spread the word of the positive work that Hector’s House are doing. We can bring more attention to the issue of men’s mental health, both in the local community through ourselves at the brewery, as well as the wider community through our trade with pubs across the home counties. 

“Here’s to raising a glass to supporting Hector’s House, as well as Hector himself. Cheers!” 

Sam and Hector 2010

Robert Stringer is the chairman of Hector’s House, and Hector’s Dad. Having previously lived in Tring, and having known Sam since he was 12 years old, this is what he would like to say about working together.  

“Sam has been an honorary member of the Stringer family for many years. Hector and Sam went to school together, played rugby together, went on holiday together and spent a huge amount of personal time together with varied interests. They spent much time together with each other’s families. The connection with the brewery could go back even further to Sam’s grandfather who used to make beer and they were both interested in this. After Hector died, Sam was still very much in contact with us. The original logo was thought up by Jennie and Sam turned it into a reality, still used today and he also designed some of the original signposting material.  

“Sam has been a mainstay of our Hector’s Gentle-man’s Club. When he first asked whether we would like to be charity of the year, we thought long and hard about this.  

“Through my discussions with Samaritans, I have long known that if you wish to raise awareness you need to go where people are and pubs are very much part of a community. People meet to eat, do quizzes and talk and we felt that this was a great opportunity to reach many people. We do not advocate alcohol as a coping mechanism, however we see the community aspects of pubs and restaurants as an opportunity to spread awareness of talking and reaching out for support where required. “ 

If you’d like to learn more about this amazing partnership and how to try some of the monthly beers in Hector’s name, please visit Tring Brewery for more information.

Alcohol and Mental Health: 

It should go without saying that this campaign is by no means looking to promote the idea that drinking alcohol is a healthy way of dealing with mental health struggles, or stress of any kind. An important part of providing support is to make it available where people are. Physically, emotionally, and mentally.

For a lot of people, the place they feel comfortable talking about the stresses in their life, for better or worse is the pub. Rather than reinforcing an idea this is wrong, or assigning guilt to how they are doing something for their mental wellbeing, we would like to support and encourage conversation wherever it naturally occurs. If “popping out for a drink” with a trusted friend is the one place somebody currently feels they can honestly open up and talk about what’s on their mind, then that is worth encouraging.

When it comes to talking, we believe very strongly in leading by example.  We host a regular talking group called HecTalk which is a safe space for men to come together and talk freely, without judgement. More information on that can be found here. If you feel your drinking, or somebody else’s is becoming a problem that you can’t manage alone, please use the resources below:

Drinkline: 0300 123 1110 

Drinkline is the national alcohol helpline. If you’re worried about your own or someone else’s drinking, you can call this free helpline in complete confidence. Call 0300 123 1110 (weekdays 9am to 8pm, weekends 11am to 4pm). 

Al-Anon: 0800 0086 811 

Al-Anon is here for anyone affected by someone else’s drinking. Our Helpline is manned by a team of friendly and helpful volunteers who are also members of Al-Anon. They will listen and be happy to answer your questions. 

We’re here to help you. 

UK residents can call free of charge on 0800 0086 811 and Eire residents can call 01 873 2699 from 10am – 10pm, 365 days a year.  Please do not leave a message as, to ensure callers’ confidentiality, we are unable to return calls. 

Drink Aware: 0300 123 1110

To speak to someone at Drinkline you can call weekdays 9am–8pm, weekends 11am–4pm.

Drinkchat: This service is open to anyone concerned about their own drinking, or someone else’s.

Drinkchat uses trained professionals from the national alcohol support helpline, Drinkline. You can have a web chat with someone at Drinkchat between 9am-2pm on weekdays.

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